don't wait to get you ass kicked!Your attacker will not just give you his hand or go along with a hip throw.Breaking and jamming fingers is an exellent way to end a fight,but you have to be within grappling range or on the ground(and the ground is the LAST place you want to be in a real confrontation).As for fancy wrist locks and using your attackers inertia to gain advantage,its just ridiculous.Letting your opponent strike first is like letting a gunslinger have the first draw.Also,your opponent isn't going to just flow into your defense gracefully as a training partner in the dojo will...
There is no 'tapping out' in a real fight...there are no emt's or doctors standing by(unless you fight in a hospital)...no rules or limits...no form...just your life.
There is never a 'winner' in a real fight or attack...one walks away still breathing and the other injured or worse.
Try once,fail twice...